Posts tagged Every Day Life
Why Guilt is Fruitless

For me guilt is far more nonproductive, than it is motivating. I struggle to bounce back after feeling
guilty about something. Especially when it comes to goals or creative things that I want to be doing.

I've been trying to encourage myself recently saying,
"No feeling guilty, Anna. You haven't been in the studio for a few weeks, no worries. Just go back in and do something."

Guilt is negative; it focuses on failing, rather than successes. Negativity is poisonous. Often the negative thoughts about myself or a situation are exaggerated and are lies. I'll think self-destructive thoughts like, "I'm lazy. I'm no good." Rather than the truth which is that, I haven't been making art because I've chosen to rest and hang out with friends the past few weeks instead. I easily slip into these negative thoughts about myself, which are destructive.

Feeling guilty substitutes favorable action.  Guilt gets me into a selfish/self-loathing mind set, which makes me want to escape it instead of overcome it. Frequently, instead of going back into the studio, I sit around and surf the web on my phone, just trying to avoid feeling bad. A more healthy response would be to actively pursue the good that I want to be doing. It's good to feel good. It's good to think positively about me. Guilt takes the place of positive action. I don't want to give it that power anymore.

How do you stay positive and disregard guilty thoughts and feelings?

Thanks for reading lovelies...


This Last Week: Getting Shit Done

A bit of a change in life and I can focus and really spend my time doing what feels good. 

I am proud of my accomplishments this last week! Dominik was away on an extended field trip with students and I lived the single life. I missed him a lot, and I love life with him much more, don't get me wrong. But, I guess it helps to get stuff done when you have a week more or less to yourself. When reflecting back on it, I began counting the hours and seeing why I felt really good about how I spent my time last week.

Out of the 168 hours in a week, last week I clocked (give or take a few hours):
- 6 working on my online vintage shop
- 53 sleeping
- 9 eating
- 3 planning for my business and events
- 1.5 driving
- 4 reading
- 6 watching "Friends"
- 32 working at school
- 1 talking on the phone
- 15 making art
- 15 hanging out with friends
- 2,5 cleaning the house
- 7 working in the garden
- 2 shopping for groceries and plants
- 3 blogging
- 6 surfing the web
- 4 cooking
- 0 quality time with my husband : (

Finallly working in the garden. 

Keeping house.

Hanging out with my little friend Theo. 

Screen-printing with my students.

Painting still-lives in the art class I am taking, and not teaching!

Are you really doing the things you want to be doing? Or just going through the motions?


5 Tips to Avoid a Winter Funk

It's about this time of year in the northern hemisphere when the days get significantly shorter, and it seems too cold to go out. Growing up in Thailand, which had no winter, did not prepare me for the grey days of winter. If I don't watch out I easily fall into a winter funk. 

So here are a few tips to keep your spirits bright during the cold months. These tips are for me just as much as they are for you.

Resist the urge to hibernate! Find out what's happening in your town, go out with friends, visit cafes and coffee shops on your days off. Just getting out of the house on the weekends will help you stay engaged in your community and thinking about things beyond yourself.

Dress well. Those days in sweatpants and jeans are wonderful, but if there are too many of them they affect the spirit, and make me feel grimy. So, this winter we need to remember to keep looking good even when our outfits are covered with big coats.

Listen to new music. I know this may not seem like it will help, but being adventurous keeps life exciting! Even though we can't go on summer hikes or swimming in the lake, we can be adventurous with thing like our music. It's about time we bought some new records and favorited some new bands on Spotify. 

Count your blessings. Acknowledging things that are great in my life, things I am thankful for, always lifts my spirits. I like writing them down, talking about them with friends, or sharing them on instagram. Just thinking about all the lovely things in my life keep me in a positive mindset. 

Do more of what you love. Usually things you love to do, somehow get put on the back burner. Whether it is going for walks, baking, or reading. For me one of my most favourite things that I rarely do is, make things. So, this winter I am going to take time to make! 

pppssst... I'll share a bit of what I've been creating later this week...

What tips do you have to keep out of a funk?

Have a lovely funk-free day!



What I Need...

I'm usually quite good at knowing what I need, I usually guard my alone time, go to bed early, and relax when I start noticing that I need to slow down.  But the last few weeks I was ignoring all the intuitive signs, and it took some germs to make me realise what I needed.

 I pushed through the sickness (a sinus infection) trying to get all my grading done for students, meeting with people, visiting a professional development workshop, and ignoring my need to take a rest and get some good sleep. I ended up having to resign to my body, it took charge and floored me. Now, after a week and a half of rest, I realise (again) that I need to pay attention to the signs. I need to listen to my body and my heart and know what I need.

I think it is a part of growing up. Understanding what I need will probably take some time.  I know that when I take care of myself and satisfy my own needs, only then can I be there for my husband, students, and friends.

Do you struggle to really know what you need at times?


4 Reasons Why I love to blog...
Tomorrow is exactly 5 years since my very first blogpost. I suppose that's a long time. It doesn't feel like it has been that long and I still feel very much like a beginner at blogging. It has changed over time but I have enjoyed it as a wonderful journey.

1. It helps me appreciate life!
Photography and capturing small beautiful details in life, has always been one of my loves. Having a blog has given me a source of constant inspiration to keep creating, but also a wonderful opportunity to share my work and play. It is also one of the best scrap-books I have ever had, and definitely the cheapest.

2. Beginning and keeping connections!
My mom is my most enthusiastic reader of my blog. She mentions weekly, how great it is that I write a blog. I have loved-ones all around the world. So, it's nice to share bits of me and my passions with them. I am meeting more and more people through the blog too. I have met many of you who know me from the blog, it's so fun to meet you and hear that you have been inspired through my writing and photos.

3. Honestly it kept me sane!
Upon first moving to Germany in 2010, I did not speak a word of German. I married a German, all neighbours, "friends", and shopkeepers were German. Everyone was speaking German. It was a really hard time. I was so lonely and just wanted to speak English. I couldn't share my real thoughts, make jokes, or really engage in German conversation at all for the first 6 months of living here. This here blog was the place I could express myself freely, without stumbling over grammar and vocab. My blog really gave me that opportunity to be who I really was, when I couldn't really communicate and be my real self in a German environment.

4. I'm much more reflective and intentional!
Writing a blog has challenged me to think through things more. I suppose it's both the frequent visual and verbal communication, which encourage reflection on my experiences, my struggles, and my dreams. Writing frequently naturally causes me to reflect on where I am coming from and where I am headed. I am a planner and organiser, so being intentional about my life comes naturally to me, but blogging and being part of the online community has really allowed me to dream big and actualise some of my pursuits and goals.

Honestly, it's hard to imagine the past 5 years without a blog. It's been an incredibly rewarding experience.  And I am excited to blog further and see how the wind changes and we grow.

Thank you for reading lovelies!

It's an honour to share life with you.